Your Questions, Answered

You must be 18 or older to be eligible for Find Love Safely matchmaking.

Find Love Safely Supported: In the Find Love Safely Supported model, a parent OR appointed agent—such as a guardian, conservator, or supported decision-maker—supports the member throughout the matchmaking journey. This support person serves as the sole point of contact and communicates directly with the match’s parent or agent to help decide next steps, like when to exchange phone numbers or go on a date. This model is ideal for members who prefer or require assistance navigating the process, or for those who are under legal guardianship or conservatorship.

Important Note: If the potential member is under legal guardianship or conservatorship, this would be the only Find Love Safely model they are eligible for.

Find Love Safely Independent: In the Find Love Safely Independent model, the adult with an intellectual or developmental disability (IDD) participates in the matchmaking process on their own. Parent or appointed agent involvement is not required (but always encouraged!). Once a match is made, members communicate directly with one another to decide how to move forward. This model is best for those who are comfortable managing the experience independently AND are not under legal guardianship or conservatorship.

We define "intellectual or developmental disability" as a diagnosis that creates social, intellectual, or developmental challenges for you. Some examples include:

• Autism
• Down syndrome
• Traumatic brain injury
• Fetal alcohol syndrome
• Fragile X syndrome
• Prader-Willi syndrome
• DiGeorge syndrome
• CHARGE syndrome
• Unspecified intellectual or developmental delays
• Any other intellectual or developmental disability not listed here

Your support person can be any of the following:

• Parent
• Guardian
• Conservator
• Supported Decision-Maker
• Power of attorney

We use the term "appointed agent" to mean anyone who has been appointed by the court system to help you make decisions.

No! We welcome all gender and sexual identities.

During the virtual call, you and your Find Love Safely matchmaker will get to know each other a bit. We will have a few questions to ask you about yourself, and you can ask us any questions you have as well.

Good question! The short answer is, "We don't know.

We consider lots of factors when making a match, and we don't know how many people will fit what you're looking for. But, there is no limit to the number of matches you are eligible for.

We will keep sending you matches until you let us know you no longer want to be considered for matchmaking services. And, you can simply pause your membership any time.

While we can't always get matches exactly right, here are some of the things we look for when making a match:

• Do they like some of the same things?
• Will have things to talk about on their date?
• Are they in the age range each other is looking for?
• Are they looking for the same type of relationship (e.g., friendship, long-term relationship)?

While we can't guarantee matches, you can trust that we will be dedicated to trying to find someone who's just right for you.

A good way to help increase your chances of finding a match is get your friends to sign up too! The more people we have in our database, the easier it will be to find matches for everyone.

We'd love to help you find a friend! We match people for friendships and romantic relationships.

This is the fun part! When we find someone who we think will be a good match for you, we will email both of you to let you know we found a match. (In the Find Love Safely Supported model, this email goes to the parent/appointed agent of both members.) When we send our email, we will also include a bio sheet so you can see a photo of who you were matched with and learn a little bit about that person.

If you don't want to meet or go on a date with your match, that's okay! We will keep looking for matches for you until you either find a partner or do not want to be considered for matchmaking anymore.

No. After we email you your match's bio page, we step out of the process. Next steps are yours to decide! For Find Love Safely Supported members, parents/appointed agents are also involved in deciding next steps.

Dating and relationships can be really tricky sometimes, and some won't work out.

When/if you are ready to date again, just let us know and we'll start looking for matches for you!

The annual membership fee varies by location. Check your city's page under the Locations tab to get the cost in your area. 

Simply send us an email at katherine@findlovesafely.com letting us know you no longer want to be considered for matches, and we will remove you from the database immediately.

Alternatively, you can email us to let us know you want to pause your membership. Members do this when they have met someone they want to focus on for awhile, and therefore do not want to receive additional matches. If your situation changes, we can unpause your membership and resume sending you matches. 

There are no refunds on the annual membership fee, and we do not prorate the fee.

However, at any time, you may choose not to remain an active member of the database. Just email us at katherine@findlovesafely.com to let us know you wish to be removed from the Find Love Safely database.