Matchmaking
Matchmaking is the heart of Find Love Safely.
We help adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities build meaningful connections through intentional, human-centered matchmaking — not algorithms, swiping, or pressure.
Every introduction is made with care, patience, and respect for each person’s goals and readiness.
How Our Matchmaking Is Different
Find Love Safely is not a dating app. We don’t rely on profiles, instant messages, or endless choices. Instead, we focus on:
- Listening first
- Understanding the whole person
- Moving at a thoughtful pace
- Prioritizing safety and emotional well-being
This approach allows relationships to grow naturally — without overwhelm or confusion.
Getting to Know Each Member
Before making any introductions, we take time to understand each member, including:
- Interests and hobbies
- Communication style
- Values and relationship goals
- Past experiences
- Comfort level and readiness for dating
This information helps us make matches that are thoughtful and aligned — not random or rushed.
How Introductions Work
After your initial virtual call, our matchmakers thoughtfully create your profile. We include information like your age, city of residence, profile picture, and a short paragraph that tells a bit about who you are based on what we learned in your virtual intake meeting.
When we identify someone who may be a good fit, we share an introduction by email with both individuals — or with caregivers, if that’s what was decided during intake — along with each person’s profile.
From there, it’s completely up to the individuals to decide whether they’d like to reach out and take the next step. We believe in honoring choice, comfort, and autonomy at every stage of the process.
Timing & Expectations
Connection takes time, and that's okay.
Matchmaking timelines vary depending on location, preferences, and availability. Some members connect quickly. Others take longer.
While waiting for a match:
- We continue actively looking
- We offer check-ins and updates
- Members may participate in workshops, coaching, or events
We don’t promise instant matches. We promise care, attention, and integrity.
Support Along the Way
Matchmaking doesn’t stop once an introduction is made. Depending on your program, support may include:
- Guidance around communication and boundaries
- Skill-building through workshops
- One-on-one coaching for reflection and confidence
- Caregiver communication, when appropriate
Our goal is to support healthy connection — not just make introductions.
Members are always treated as adults with agency. Caregivers are involved in ways that support safety and success, while honoring independence.
We work with each family to find the right balance of involvement and autonomy.
When Matches Don't Happen Right Away
We understand that waiting for a match is difficult! Periods without a match are a normal part of dating — especially in smaller or newer communities.
During these times:
- We continue searching intentionally
- We stay in communication
- We support members through skill-building and confidence-building (in Essentials and Concierge Programs, or through add-on coaching sessions)
Quiet periods do not mean inactivity.
New City Thank-You
Joining Find Love Safely in a new city?
As a thank-you for joining early and helping us build a strong local community, new members in newly launched cities receive complimentary access to our live virtual coaching workshops for their first three months.
Ready to Begin?
A thoughtful process starts with a conversation.
If you’re ready to explore matchmaking with care and intention, we’re here.